{"id":1138,"date":"2023-10-24T03:59:10","date_gmt":"2023-10-23T19:59:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/2023\/10\/24\/5-reasons-people-choose-to-stay-single\/"},"modified":"2024-04-18T12:00:43","modified_gmt":"2024-04-18T04:00:43","slug":"5-reasons-people-choose-to-stay-single","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/5-reasons-people-choose-to-stay-single\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Reasons People Choose to Stay Single"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let\u2019s face it, the majority of people who are single are not single because they honestly and truly choose to be that way. Yes, there are people out there who are single and love it and wouldn\u2019t change it for the world but these people are in the minority<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Let\u2019s face it, the majority of people who are single are not single because they honestly and truly choose to be that way. Yes, there are people out there who are single and love it and wouldn\u2019t change it for the world but these people are in the minority.<\/p>\n

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So, if most people who are still single would rather be in a relationship (of some kind), why are there so many single people out there?<\/p>\n

I happen to be single myself and believe that there are some pretty good reasons to explain why single people like myself seem to stay single.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re one of the single people, keep on reading to see if one of these \u201ctop 5 reasons why you\u2019re alone\u201d can explain why you\u2019re still single.<\/p>\n

1. You were in a long-term relationship<\/strong><\/p>\n

Being in a long-term relationship is much different than dating. If your long-term relationship ends, there is a lot more to deal with than if you\u2019d only been dating for a few months. Take a 10-year relationship that\u2019s ended, for example: there\u2019s 10 years of good memories, bad memories, lost commitments, joy, hurt \u2013 you name it \u2013 to try to deal with.<\/p>\n

Assumedly, if you were in a 10-year relationship, the person you were with knew you well \u2013 your likes, dislikes, your quirks, your friends, family, hopes, dreams, etc. You probably knew each other so well that it was like you had your own secret language. Even if the relationship ended badly, that\u2019s a lot to try to replace!<\/p>\n

It\u2019s no wonder that single people with long-term relationships in their past seem to stay single. Whether it makes sense to them or not, they just can\u2019t seem to find someone who can replace what they once had whether what they had was good or not. The key here is that they will never be able to find a direct replacement but they can find someone new who is equally if not more worthwhile and hopefully a better match. It takes time, openness and commitment to build another long-term relationship from scratch and it can be scary and overwhelming.<\/p>\n

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2.You\u2019re shy and\/or not very outgoing<\/strong><\/p>\n

Whether we like it or not, people who are outgoing tend to get noticed and that includes getting noticed by the opposite sex. Where does that leave shy single people? We\u2019re just not that likely to get noticed if we don\u2019t make eye contact with others and make a point of trying to get to know them. It\u2019s a sad fact, but true.<\/p>\n

Being shy is at least 50% genetic so there\u2019s only so much we can do to overcome this. The good news<\/a> is that there are lots of shy single people out there \u2014 admittedly, the hard part is hooking up, but it happens, so don\u2019t despair.<\/p>\n

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3.You live in a small town or village<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s just play the numbers game here. Imagine you live in a small town of 3000 people and you\u2019re a woman. You\u2019re looking for a man, so you\u2019re down to 1500 to choose from except that 75% of them are taken so that leaves you with 375. Out of those 375, let\u2019s say 15% of them fall within an appropriate age range of you which brings you down to about 57. Out of those 57, you\u2019re sure not going to be compatible with all of them; there may be a few you\u2019re compatible with but how are you going to find them?<\/p>\n

Just because you live in the same town doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re going to bump into each other on the sidewalk or at the grocery store. Of course, these are completely made up statistics but are generally what you\u2019re dealing with in small towns. If you want more dating options, you\u2019ll have to move to the big city.<\/p>\n

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4.You\u2019ve been single a long time and are set in your ways<\/strong><\/p>\n

The longer you live as a single person, the more independent and self-sufficient you\u2019re forced to become. While this is not necessarily a bad thing, if taken to the extreme, it can hinder your efforts to find a mate. If you\u2019re used to doing everything yourself and for yourself only, it may be very difficult to let someone else into your life even though you may crave that closeness.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, this becomes more and more true as we get older. I\u2019m pretty set in my ways myself and all I can hope for is that if the right one does come along, that I will let him break through my wall of independence that I have created.<\/p>\n

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5.You\u2019re just too picky<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yes, we all want to have a Brad Pitt or Megan Fox type hanging off our arms but it\u2019s just not going to happen. Even if we don\u2019t want that, we have a list in our minds of traits that our future soulmate must possess and sometimes that list can be rather long, perhaps too long.<\/p>\n

While nobody wants to \u201csettle\u201d, you might want to ask yourself if everything on your list is really that important. Does it matter that much how tall the person is? How much money they make? What color hair they have? It might be worth relaxing some of your standards and seeing what kind of results you get. Remember, nobody is perfect.<\/p>\n

Source: news.iyuba.com<\/p>\n

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