{"id":1306,"date":"2018-12-02T08:24:49","date_gmt":"2018-12-02T00:24:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/2018\/12\/02\/the-chinese-stare-why-it-happens-and-how-to-respond\/"},"modified":"2024-12-19T23:38:06","modified_gmt":"2024-12-19T15:38:06","slug":"the-chinese-stare-why-it-happens-and-how-to-respond","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/the-chinese-stare-why-it-happens-and-how-to-respond\/","title":{"rendered":"The Chinese Stare: Why it Happens and How to Respond"},"content":{"rendered":"

Staring is one of the best ways to make a person feel uncomfortable, especially if they are a stranger.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Staring is one of the best ways to make a person feel uncomfortable<\/a>, especially if they are a stranger.<\/p>\n

When I was growing up, my parents taught me that it’s rude to stare.<\/p>\n

But telling a Chinese person not to stare is like telling them not to breathe. It\u2019s one of those cultural phenomenons that has its roots planted deep and shows no signs of stopping.<\/p>\n

Recently, I went swimming with a Caucasian family that has three children. Within sixty seconds of entering the kiddy pool, we were swarmed by at least two dozen children (all of whom were Chinese) who were all staring and asking questions. They kept inching closer and closer until we had no room to move around.<\/p>\n

We tried moving to another part of the pool, but the same thing happened again. Finally, we settled ourselves in a deeper part of the pool where there were mostly adults. I felt so bad for this family. All they wanted was to enjoy a nice<\/a> swim to themselves. But because they were foreign<\/a>ers, they unfortunately attracted all this unsolicited attention.<\/p>\n

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I spoke with my tutor about why Chinese people stare so much and she said that it\u2019s\u00a0because Chinese people are naturally curious to see a foreigner. Many people here have never seen a foreigner in their entire lives (except perhaps on TV).<\/p>\n

To the Chinese mind,\u00a0foreigners don\u2019t belong in China. Why should you leave your comfortable, wealthy nation to come to a more crowded and less wealthy country that many of its citizens are hoping to leave?<\/p>\n

Staring is also a common thing among Chinese people. We once saw about 50-60 people circled around two men who were arguing about something. Another time we saw a motorbike get hit by a taxi in the middle of an intersection. (Thankfully, no one was seriously injured.) Within just a few minutes, there was a crowd of several dozen people standing on the side of the road just staring at the wreck.<\/p>\n

Since Chinese people will also openly stare at other Chinese people, why should they treat you any differently?\u00a0It might seem like they\u2019re picking on you because you\u2019re a foreigner, but the truth is that they\u2019re just doing what they\u2019ve\u00a0always\u00a0done.<\/p>\n

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Even though I\u2019m Chinese-Canadian (and therefore look like everyone else here), I still get stared at. This time it\u2019s not because of how I look, but because I\u2019m speaking English. Whenever my wife and I are in the middle of a conversation at a local grocery story, for instance, we get lots of strange looks from people as we pass by them.<\/p>\n

Truthfully, I still get a little annoyed by the staring sometimes. I feel like my personal privacy (a strongly-held value by many Westerners) is being invaded.<\/p>\n

In responding to other people\u2019s stares, I sometimes have to remind myself\u00a0to put myself in their shoes. Curiosity is something that influences all of us. If I saw something that didn\u2019t belong in my country, I would probably stop and stare for a little while, too.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s also important to remember that\u00a0you are a guest to their country. As such, you cannot expect them to conform to\u00a0your\u00a0culture. What you might consider offensive in your culture just might be considered the\u00a0norm\u00a0in their culture.<\/p>\n

If someone is giving me the blank expression kind of stare, then I\u2019ll usually ignore them until they eventually quit staring on their own. If the person is close enough, sometimes I will start a conversation with them. Turning an awkward moment into an opportunity for relationship just might be the most rewarding thing you can do.<\/p>\n

Have you ever been stared at? How do you respond when people stare at you? Respond below!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Staring is one of the best ways to make a person feel uncomfortable, especially if they are a stranger. Staring is one of the best ways to make a person …","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":25075,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[60,353,1972,306,29,34,3445],"class_list":["post-1306","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-funny","tag-china","tag-e-china-cities","tag-foreign","tag-hiredchina","tag-jobs","tag-jobs-in-china","tag-the-chinese-stare-why-it-happens-and-how-to-respond"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1306","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1306"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1306\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":25076,"href":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1306\/revisions\/25076"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/25075"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1306"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1306"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1306"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}