{"id":855,"date":"2017-01-10T16:21:38","date_gmt":"2017-01-10T08:21:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/2017\/01\/10\/opinion-is-laowai-a-compliment-or-an-insult\/"},"modified":"2017-01-10T16:21:38","modified_gmt":"2017-01-10T08:21:38","slug":"opinion-is-laowai-a-compliment-or-an-insult","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/opinion-is-laowai-a-compliment-or-an-insult\/","title":{"rendered":"Opinion: Is \u201cLaowai\u201d A Compliment Or An Insult?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Most expats who live in China have more than once been addressed as laowai, either to their face or behind their back. Lao is literally translated as \u2018old\u2019, and wai means \u2018abroad\u2019. Referring to you as a foreigner might already seem disrespectful and add..<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Most expats who live in China have more than once been addressed as laowai, either to their face or behind their back. Lao is literally translated as \u2018old\u2019, and wai means \u2018abroad\u2019. Referring to you as a foreigner might already seem disrespectful and add to that being called \u2018old\u2019 would leave some folks feeling downright offended.<\/p>\n

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But remain calm and allow me to explain this term in a cross-cultural way. Maybe you\u2019ll find it less offensive than initially thought.<\/p>\n

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In the Chinese language, lao is the word people use before surnames to show the respect and convey warmth as a friend. It\u2019s normally used while addressing the middle-aged. <\/p>\n

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For example, my surname is Chen and my coworkers who are older than me call me \u2018Xiao Chen\u2019 (xiao means \u2018little\u2019), because I\u2019m just in my mid-twenties. But when I get to be around forty, people will be more likely to call me \u2018Lao Chen\u2019, which can also be taken to imply that \u201cThis Chen is an experienced person in her field and she is trustworthy.\u201d <\/p>\n

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This lao is also used after the surname to address older people aged seventy and above. I would be beyond happy if people call me \u2018Chen lao\u2019 when I get older, as not all people receive the honor of this form of address. Therefore, \u2018Surname + lao\u2019 is a term indicating that this person is highly respected and he\/she is someone who is greatly valued in his\/her social circle.<\/p>\n

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 We Chinese folks don\u2019t really see \u2018old\u2019 as an offensive term; the word \u2018old\u2019 is usually interpreted to mean \u2018experienced\u2019 and \u2018mature\u2019 (in good way).  However, in Western culture, it\u2019s quite rude to define a person as old. People hate it as much as being called \u2018fat\u2019. The difference in attitude toward this term also explains why people avoid discussing each other\u2019s age in Western countries, but a Chinese person may ask about your age during your very first meeting.<\/p>\n

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 All of these things aside, the world is becoming more and more globalized and people should be aware that we are actually all the same no matter where we are from and how we look. We should avoid labeling people in ways which may lead to misunderstanding.<\/p>\n

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Rather than the term itself, what makes expats even more uncomfortable is the way a Chinese person calls you laowai. <\/p>\n

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Nobody likes to be singled out and pointed at \u201cLook! Laowai!\u201d or hear people whisper \u201cThis laowai blablabla\u201d while they\u2019re standing in the same lift. These actions make the term laowai seem derogatory. However, times are changing, for there are more and more expats coming to live in China; blond hair and blue eyes no longer really shock people the way they did before.<\/p>\n

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Now I\u2019d like to offer you some responses to say when you people call you laowai:<\/p>\n

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The serious version: \u201cQing buyao zheyang jiao wo, wo bu xihuan\u201d (Please don\u2019t call me like this, I don\u2019t like it.)<\/p>\n

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The less serious version: \u201cwo bu lao, buyao jiao laowai\u201d (I\u2019m not old, don\u2019t call me laowai, people would think you are cute for your misunderstanding of \u2018lao\u2019, as we also call young expats laowai, the lao in this term has basically lost its original meaning of \u2018old\u2019.)<\/p>\n

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 The humorous Version: \u201cHi, Lao zhong\u201d (Hi, old Chinese.)<\/p>\n

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 The \u2018revenge\u2019 Version: If the person refers to you as laowai while talking to someone else, assuming you don\u2019t speak Chinese and it seems as though they are judging you, they are definitely being rude and perhaps deserve a little \u2018revenge\u2019. <\/p>\n

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What you need to do is pick up your phone and pretend to talk with somebody: speak loudly \u201cwei, laowong, chi le ma? Wanshang yiqi da mahjong ba!\u201d (Hey, Old Wong, did you eat yet? Let\u2019s play mahjong tonight). Asking people if they have eaten or not as a greeting and if they\u2019re down to play mahjong are both really \u2018Chinese\u2019 topics. <\/p>\n

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If you are fluent in enough, it will embarrass the person who assumed so quickly that you don\u2019t understand Chinese. So go on and practice this sentence; a friend of mine tried it out and she said it worked perfectly! <\/p>\n

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