{"id":947,"date":"2023-10-24T03:59:03","date_gmt":"2023-10-23T19:59:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/2023\/10\/24\/5-things-to-know-when-being-friends-with-chinese\/"},"modified":"2024-05-08T21:22:54","modified_gmt":"2024-05-08T13:22:54","slug":"5-things-to-know-when-being-friends-with-chinese","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.hiredchina.com\/articles\/5-things-to-know-when-being-friends-with-chinese\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Things To Know When Being Friends With Chinese"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cGold is easy to get, a close friend is harder to find\u201d this Chinese proverb reveals the attitude of the Chinese towards friendship \u2013 they appreciate it and believe that a good friend is difficult to find, but if you are lucky to become friends with a goo<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\u201cGold is easy to get, a close friend is harder to find\u201d this Chinese proverb reveals<\/a> the attitude of the Chinese towards friendship \u2013 they appreciate it and believe that a good friend is difficult to find, but if you are lucky to become friends with a good person, you should value him. If Chinese people develop a deep bond with other people, they stay friends for a lifetime.<\/p>\n

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In China, there is a friendly attitude to all people, including newcomers, so if you are open-minded, loquacious, and friendly you won\u2019t experience any problems when being friends with the Chinese.<\/p>\n

Barriers You May Face When Making Chinese Friends<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you wonder how to be a nice friend and want to find Chinese friends, be ready for some obstacles. They are the following:<\/p>\n

\u2666 Language<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you come to China, it\u2019s obvious that you should learn Chinese. Of course, you may find Chinese people who speak English, but there may be a problem. Sometimes they can consider communication with you as a free English practice lesson. They see that you are a foreigner and they assume that they can learn English for free. You may think that you can get along together, but soon your interaction will dissolve into a one-sided relationship. So, it\u2019s better to learn Chinese by finding a person with the same hobbies and interests and speak their native language. That way it will be more likely that your communication will be more natural.<\/p>\n

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\u2666 You may meet social outcasts<\/strong><\/p>\n

Basically, these are people who speak English but don\u2019t have friends in their native country. They can be preoccupied with Western culture and even talk with you about the politics or culture of your native country. The problem is that they may consider you as a means to cure their loneliness and isolation, but they don\u2019t consider you to be a friend. So, it\u2019s better for you to go to places where you may find people who share your hobbies. For instance, dance class, a motorcycle club, the gym, etc. There you may find friends of the same interests and speak Chinese with them while you build a natural bond.<\/p>\n

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\u2666 Regional differences<\/strong><\/p>\n

China is not a homogenous society, so the ideas of friendship are different in different regions. People in the South and in the North often see friendship differently. In most cases, ideas about friendship in the South are dramatically different from the Western views. For them, friendship is a cultural bond based on mutual help (what I can do for you and what you can do for me) and respect. It may be called networking or transactional relationship. In fact, you may find it tough to make close friends. Many people argue that this difference occurs based on the fact that Chinese people in the South need more time to develop trust, but once they\u2019ve done it you\u2019ll have a friend for life.<\/p>\n

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On top of this, some Chinese people find friends (e.g. workmates) just to hang out in the evening. This type of friendship is called \u201cmixed\u201d or guanxi (relationships that have both a personal and professional dimension).<\/p>\n

Speaking about the Northern part of China, it\u2019s easier to make friends there (if you look from the Western perspective of friendship). Friendship with them is built on the emotional bond and shared hobbies. People judge each other by character and personality traits rather than their social status.<\/p>\n

5 Things Should Aware
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If you want to become good friends with Chinese, then remember that it can be challenging. If you want to know how to be a good friend and you want your friendships to be prosperous, pleasing and long-lasting, be aware of these five things\uff1a<\/p>\n

1. Food Comes First After The Family<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yes, there is a food cult in China! And this is quite logical because there is a lot of food and it is incredibly tasty. Where is the best time to spend an evening with friends? In a nice restaurant that offers a variety of mouth-watering dishes.<\/p>\n

Besides, for Chinese, having a dinner is a ritual. They eat very long, taste all dishes and all important decisions are made during meals. On top of that, hot pot and BBQs are extremely popular in China. This activity brings people together as they cook food, communicate, laugh and it\u2019s a perfect way to socialize.<\/p>\n

As such, you should love the food as much as the Chinese love it because most of your leisure time will be spent tasting new meals in different places.<\/p>\n

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2. Close Friends Become Practically A Family<\/strong><\/p>\n

Chinese are very family-oriented. They believe in blood ties so much that they marry and form families in a way that resembles starting a business partnership. They treat their relatives with love and respect and once they\u2019ve made friends, they treat them as the part of their family and their behavior changes. If you want to be close friends with Chinese, be ready for being the part of family gatherings and close communication with the parents of your friend. For instance, you may call them \u201c\u0101y\u00ed\u201d and \u201csh\u016b shu\u201d, i.e. \u201cauntie\u201d and \u201cuncle.\u201d<\/p>\n

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3. Friends In China Ignore Some Rules Of\u00a0<\/strong>Politeness<\/strong><\/p>\n

The Chinese are polite and hospitable. They do their best in order to make foreigners feel comfortable in their country and to make only positive impressions. They always keep you at a distance and they are never rude. However, if a Chinese person considers you to be a close friend, some rules of politeness are ignored. For instance, they don\u2019t say \u201cplease\u201d and \u201cthank you\u201d because it makes them feel uncomfortable. They think that being friends means that it\u2019s natural that they do everything for each other, so using \u201cplease\u201d and \u201cthank you\u201d is superfluous. Besides, a Chinese friend will make fun of you in a joking manner. It means that he accepts you as a friend.<\/p>\n

On top of that, in China it is accepted that one person pays for the whole group in a restaurant. If a Chinese friend considers you a foreigner and a guest, then he will never allow you to pay the bill. However, if he allows you to do this know that he considers you to be his friend.<\/p>\n

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4. Friendship Is Based On Shared Hobbies<\/strong><\/p>\n

Chinese people love their culture, so if you want to be good friends Chinese, you should show interest in Chinese culture and learn about it. Then you\u2019ll have much to discuss. Besides, common hobbies spark a friendship across cultures, so you should share the same interests with your friend. If you want to find Chinese friends, show up at places where you will find people with the same interests. Chinese people are outgoing and like sports, music, and art. So, be ready to hit the gym, bicycle, travel<\/a>, run, and play badminton. Also, visiting art galleries, music shows, and poetry readings. Your leisure activities depend on the type of hobbies you share.<\/p>\n

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On top of that, common hobbies will help you to build a special bond between you, which will cultivate trust and will transform into a lifelong friendship.<\/p>\n

5. Friends Give Presents<\/strong><\/p>\n

To give small presents is a part of Chinese etiquette. If you go to your friend\u2019s place, always bring something with you. An ideal option is to bring fresh supplies (food, drink) in sufficient quantity. But don\u2019t try too hard, just bring enough to show that you paid attention.<\/p>\n

Besides, each time you go back to your country, go abroad on a vacation or a business trip, you should always come back with lots of local specialty items, i.e. things that you can\u2019t get in China), to give as gifts to all your good Chinese friends. Also, give small gifts to your friends for no reason.<\/p>\n

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Being friends with Chinese isn\u2019t hard if you are open-minded, compassionate, friendly, hospitable, have a sense of humor and value private space. Once you\u2019ve maintained a strong bond and established trust with your Chinese friend, be sure, he will be your friend for life!<\/p>\n

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Source: Chinawhisper<\/p>\n

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